Mar 16, 2016

The cockroach theory for self development

Today I have read this beautiful articles and want to share this thoughts with my friends. 

Just read below beautiful story and learn something from it. I am sure you will definitely like this one and don't forget to share this with your friends. This is one which you can try in your life for each and every day.

The cockroach theory for self development

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.

She started screaming out of fear.

With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life. I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand............LIFE.

Person who is HAPPY is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..

He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!

One more beautiful comment on article 

Anecdotal example of Viktor Frankl's insightful observation - "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom."

Source of Article : LinkedIn

Jan 21, 2016

Two Things of Life !!

Two Things Of Life
I often think about life and observe the things that involves in life. Life will always have two things, just like a coin has two faces. This life comes up with two aspects, either Live it or Die, and it comes with two wheels of cart - man and  woman. For every person there are two things in life, either to live it to the fullest or make it complex to live. Every action in your life will bring either happiness in your life or unhappiness, depending upon the opportunities you have in life and how you react to it. Life will give you so many opportunities but it is you, who will say either yes or no. When you say yes, then there will be challenges while making these opportunities turn into success. Life is full of challenges and you should be always ready for that, and you must try hard. It is your call if you want to accept challenge or you want to turn down.


"To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence" - Mark Twin.


Every human being want to live a successful life but it depends upon how they react to challenges or opportunities they have. Your actions will decide whether you will be a successful person or you will have failure(s) in life. How you serve challenges decide whether you win or you lose. But, again life is very crazy it will give you two more situations to experience it. If you will win then it is you who will decide to keep on celebrating your win or you will keep on doing hard work to get many more success in life. 


It is very nicely said by Sir A.P.J Abdul Kalam - "Don’t take rest after your first victory because if you fail in second, more lips are waiting to say that your first victory was just luck."


But, interesting part about life is when you fail to complete challenge then situation will tell you two things again, either give it up or give it a try to win back. You should always keep on trying even after repetitive failures rather than just giving up because, it may bring success in your life, and you will completely lose challenge when you just give it up. Every Problem has two solutions either to run away or to participate. If you participate, even after series of failures, you will either survive at last or you will deteriorate. It is your call in life to choose any one of the ways in life. 


"Repeated failures are finger posts on the road to achievement" - C. S. Lewis


You have two things in your life 'to be happy' or 'to be sad', and it is upto you to decide what to choose. In your life two things will always define your life, 'your patience when you have nothing' and 'your attitude when you have everything'. Life could be worse or could be better, it is upto you, to make it happen with two things, by choosing a bitter path or a better path. Every person has a choice to become optimistic or pessimistic. Your positivity will bring happiness in your life because you can always use it for every challenge you face, to bring success. If you allow negative thinking to come in your mind, then there will be a loop of failures in your life. Negative thinking wil let you, give up always in your life.


"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up" -Thomas Alva Edison


Two things in your personal , professional or social life is to find an excuse or to find a way. If you find an excuse, you will never achieve your goal and if you find a way, you will have a goal in your basket. To achieve a goal you must  work on your dream to fulfil your dreams, rather than just keeping in mind and doing nothing for that. Your goals are key for your happiness and your optimistic behaviour is solution for every obstacle in your life.


You will always have two options, to choose friends, to collect memories, to talk with someone, to react on something - either it is good or bad.


Life always comes up with two things, birth and death and in between these two constant parts of life you always have two things which will design your life.


If you observe two things about a life do post here in a comment and share with me.